World Family, Guilty

It would seem that when you make every effort to change your life, your family and some friends are the main ones that do not want to forgive you or want to remain blind to the changes you have made in your life. They continue to bring up your past. They will not speck to you, nor call no matter if you are ill or on your deathbed. I mean that, if you call yourself a "spiritual person", a Christian, a Buddhist, a Muslim or Hindu; how is it that you pick and choose who you forgive? Who gave you that right? That means that you have judged that person without them being tried or even specking to them to hear them defend themselves or apologize. In fact you go out of your way not to speck to them. You drive by their home or you see them on the street, but you don't say a word. You don't stop by to ask" why?"
There are certain members that will forgive and forget, your parents, a big Sister or Brother, even that special true friend, but it seems when the word is put out on you. That you had did something wrong , there are always members of your family that will dislike you no matter what you say or do to mend the damaged relationship. They refuse to love you as family and forgive you. Even when you have apologized to all the ones that you have hurt, offended and disrespected. Even when they are taught by their parents, grandparents, and other family members as children to forgive when someone has apologized. I have come to understand that some people, especially family( and some friends), no matter what you do to change, will always find you guilty. They can do things that could land them in jail, and they will still feel that you have done far worst than they have.
I have made every effort not to be anyone judge, jury and executioner. I have been the one that has been guilty of some mean things, just as others have been. I have witnessed actions of people, including family that would make many people ashamed. But I have learned that it is not my job to past that type of judgement, it only belongs to God. How can I ask for forgiveness, if I can't forgive you. If I don't want to be judged, whom am I to judge you? It is painful the things that I have witnessed, have done myself, seen on the news, and read about in regards to what we do to each other. In all situations, it is the choices we make at that time that will effect you and those around you. It will even effect those that you do not even realize unless you pay close attention.
The problems that we face within our families, neighborhoods, nation and around the world is base upon the choice of love and forgiveness, or hate. We are coming to a point in our human existence that we have done more damage to ourselves and this planet than any other generation, including both World Wars combined. Do you realize that we have at least 2 to 5 or more wars or conflicts going on right know and that there growing in number each year. Our choice is not based upon what the governments are doing or on a few so called"secret powers" Even the terrorists do not have that much control as they think, they are being used to . Everything is based upon the family. if we truly all came from the same beginning, one group of people, one tribe, one set of parents; then we are all one family. The human race is one large family. We are doing nothing but judging, hating, killing and destroying our own family. When God gave this planet to us to rule over, it is a test to see how well we do with something small. The entire universe is our inheritance, if we can't take care of this planet how can God trust us with the entire universe? Think about it !